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I feel pretty bad. I have a couple articles that I’m 99% done with, but I keep having to tweak them because minor things keep happening. If I made a game myself, it would be Duke Nukem Forever all over again. But something happened today that bumps right up against our gender equality episode we had awhile back, something that perfectly illustrates the points I was making about being all for gender equality and fighting the good fight, as long as that fight is on the up and up.
What happened was someone got offended at a comedy club and blogged about it, namely a Daniel Tosh show. You can read about the entire thing here, but for those who aren’t up for reading that, the story goes that a lady wandered into a comedy club which happened to have Daniel Tosh headlining. She, not knowing who Mr. Tosh was or what his act was about, paid for a ticket and attended. As the show went on, Tosh made a statement as part of his act about rape jokes always being funny, which this particular bloggess took umbrage with. She decided that the prudent, right thing to do would be to voice her displeasure, at which point both Tosh and the audience both turned the offensiveness up until she got so offended she left and complained to the manager. I found out about this whole thing when Patton Oswalt apologized to his friends over Facebook about all the people he offended. Apparently Patton and a bunch of other comedians fell squarely on the side of supporting Tosh. As for the guy himself, Tosh issued an apology.
There’s more to this story, but I have to stop here for a second. Here’s a quote from that blog post up there:
I did it because, even though being “disruptive” is against my nature, I felt that sitting there and saying nothing, or leaving quietly, would have been against my values as a person and as a woman.
What values would those have been? Being too rock stupid to understand the difference between a show on stage and a round-table discussion about beliefs? Does this self-righteous dingy broad go to a stage production of The Crucible and scream at the cast for portraying young women as opportunistic liars? Did she sit in a theater showing Showgirls and go “I AM UPSET WITH SEVERAL SCENES IN THIS” while people shush her? Is it part of her values to not give a damn about the money other people paid to see this show and might not care about her specific damage? They didn’t pay to hear your issues, lady; they paid to hear Daniel Tosh be offensive on stage, because that’s what he’s known for, and it’s not a goddamned city council meeting. If you don’t like the show you’re watching, you have one option open to you: Leave. Write a letter, complain afterwards, by all means never fail to stand up for what you think is right and what you believe in, as long as you’re not disrupting other people’s rights in doing so. Spoiler alert: People have a right to enjoy a show they paid for in peace, and performers have the right to do their job in peace. She has a great line “So I didnt appreciate Daniel Tosh (or anyone!) telling me I should find them funny”. Okay, that’s great, but apparently you *do* get to tell other people what they should find funny? This lady is the self appointed arbiter of funny for the nation now. I know this is hard to fathom here lady, but try to bear with me for a second: no one gives a shit what you think about each individual joke’s subject matter during the course of the show.
The other thing I want to say before I move on is what in the good fucking god did this woman think was going to happen? I don’t just mean about heckling, I mean at a comedy show? She knew who Dane Cook was, and even though she said that he “wasn’t her thing”, she went anyway. Dane Cook has an entire bit about how it is hilarious and awesome to call your unruly girlfriend a twat. Even disregarding that, good comedy is not safe. I don’t mean that comedy has to be offensive, or go for the shock, but it can’t be comfortable and expected. The core of comedy is the contrast between what people expect and what people don’t. You cannot wring your hands and worry if you’re going to offend people or not, because then you’re not going to be funny. There’s many, many different types of stand up alone, and that’s not even delving into sketch comedy, article-based comedy and all of that, but for the most part if you’re trying to connect with an audience on a comedic level, you’re talking about real life and how absurd it is, and at some point you’re going to poke someone in the eye. Anyone who’s passionate about art steps on toes constantly. In many ways, that’s the goddamned point of it.
As for the heckling, how did she think it was going to go down? Did she think that she was going to lead the entire crowd, Dead Poets Society style in booing him off the stage? Did she think that he was going to respond to her outburst like “Oh, I’m sorry, you’re right, my bad. What was I thinking, you guys”? I would have loved to see her try and pull this retarded garbage with Louis C.K. If Daniel Tosh made her cry out in injustice with his goofy, over the top offensiveness, good ol’ Louie would probably have made her shoot herself in the lobby in anguish. As if anyone who’s even sort of a professional doesn’t deal with worse hecklers every single day of their lives. Heckling someone at a comedy show is akin to asking someone to post a video of you on Youtube of that time you recorded yourself singing a shitty song, except halfway through you fuck up and then you fall out of your seat and shit your pants. It’s not going to end well for you, is what I’m saying.
So at the end of the day what we have here is just a story of some lady who was blind to what the comedy scene is really like, and posted her negative experience on her blog. It’s not like she would have embellished her story in order to start a smear campaign against a comic that ruffled her feathers, right? I mean, if she lied about this, it would completely destroy her credibility about how utterly terrifying the whole ordeal was.
Except that’s exactly what she did.
That’s an article about the club owner’s side of the story, and it paints a very different picture. The routine didn’t go down as she stated. She did not “find it hard to process what was happening” and she did not “basically flee”. She sat through Tosh’s entire set, which got a standing ovation, and complained after the whole thing was over. Just about the only thing she was honest about was that she got free tickets, which she accepted. Of course, that didn’t stop her from lying through her opportunist little teeth and writing a sob-story smear campaign of a blog post which she ended with “reblog and spread the word”.
I couldn’t have asked for a more perfect example of people who are technically cheerleaders of a good cause, but whose motivations and methods basically make them villains. You can’t just say “oh yes, I’m all about this” automatically, because people are constantly looking to use your genuine support to do underhanded, wrongheaded things. My Crucible joke up there is starting to look pretty apropos now, huh?